Boundaries and Limits

In complete honesty this is something I struggle with. I can stress so much about my friends lives that my mental health and stress levels take a hit. Knowing when to remove yourself from somebody else's situation is a very important skill. If you see yourself becoming overly anxious about it chances, are you need to take a step back. There's nothing wrong with being involved in your friends lives and helping them through rough patches, but it becomes a problem when you avoid problems in your own life. There are a couple ways to deal with it though. The first and foremost is prayer. You aren't equipped to handle everyone else's problems and if they expect you to that's not a healthy friendship. give it to God He knows what to do and has a plan. The next is telling somebody preferably an adult. They can give you advice from knowing. The final tip is talking to the person and telling them you can't handle shouldering all their burdens and (gently) telling them to go to somebody else.

That's all the advice I have for you. XOXO

Haircare

If your fyp is anything like mine, you see a lot of hair care advice and a million different opinions. Chances are we have different hair types. But coming from somebody who used to have dead SUPER short hair here's what I do since now I've been on a journey learning to embrace my wavy hair. Let's get it.

~The night before I wash my hair, I use 100% castor oil split my hair into three and massage it in with my fingers. I also use the ogx weightless coconut oil.

~The day I wash my hair I double shampoo my hair with Monday specifically for curly/wavy hair I also use their conditioner the final product I use is the eva nyc 10 in 1 hair mask.

~ Once I'm out of the shower I style my hair with the Marc Anthony grow long leave in conditioner (Side note: Super good product 10/10) then go in with the ogx curl cream (Not exactly my fave 5/10) and the Not Your Mothers Mousse (New favorite very light weight) I then scrunch in the Got2b screaming hold gel (VERY strong hold and tacky, but in a good way) spray the eva nyc heat protectant and diffuse.

That's what works for me obviously it may not work for you, but if it does let me know!

Quiet Time

Hi! I wanted to share what my quiet time currently looks like. I personally like to do mine a little after I've woken up to start my day off. I pray for understanding and that the Holy Spirit would reveal things to me that maybe I've never noticed before. Then I dive right into that day's chapter. I'm currently in Jermiah and it's seriously a beast. Sometimes I read it several times before moving on. I also read the little side notes if there's any. Once I'm finished reading, I use the S.O.A.P method for journaling which stands for scripture, observation, application, and prayer. My observations can look like something that happened in that chapter or when specific verses jump out at me. Application can be whether a verse or something the person did is noteworthy. Then prayer is relatively self-explanatory, and I wrote where I read.

Happy quiet time!